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Possible-san, hope u r ok!!

by elderelite in

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please check in when you can....

...Aguest/Shelby is out of the Hospital and Recovering...

by OUTLAW in

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i`ve recieved an email from one of the dearest people i know,here on jwn... shelby had major surgery at the end of february..she is just getting her strength back... this thread is for her... leave a message..say a prayer..send good vibes... it all helps when a person is recovering... thanks... .

shelby... i`m sending good vibes your way... get well soon my friend... .

........................... ...outlaw.

Open mind

Wishing you a speedy recovery Shelby.

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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up

by headisspinning in

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i'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.

i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.

Open mind

If your hubby was the COBOE and he used adultery to get out of his previous marriage it's going to be a VERY long time.

Here's a line we were told at Elder's School about 5 years ago:

"The degree of discipline should be commensurate with the degree of deviation."

That's a verbatim quote because they repeated it over and over from one school to the next and at subsequent CO visits.

Your husband has absolutely no wiggle room for "Oh, I didn't fully realize the seriousness..... blah, blah."

I completely concur with OTWO on child baptism. It is completely irrevocable. Why should a minor be allowed to make a decision like that?

Take your time. Don't let the kids get baptized just yet. Educate yourselves about your religion from outside sources.

WANTING something to be true, doesn't make it true.

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Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up

by headisspinning in

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i'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.

i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.

Open mind

Fastest reinstatment I've ever personally seen was about 8 months, although I have heard of some as short as 6 months.

The victim didn't miss any meetings right off the bat. Never made any waves. Always had her WT materials underlined in very visible highlighter ink. Turned in a "thank you" letter to the elders right off the bat letting them know she appreciated the spiritual discipline and was going to do her very best to restore her damaged relationship with Jehovah. Turned in a letter requesting reinstatment at 3 months. Was told to keep up the good work but continue to be patient. Turned in another letter around 6 months. Reinstated at around 8 months.

She seemed very sincere and cut to the heart.

I think an average time span if a person is sincerely trying to make a comeback, stays visible and maintains good communication with the elders and doesn't make ANY kind of excuses is probably 12-18 months.

As Farkel says: "It's all Bible Based" (tm).

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